product review, Promotional

Kiehl’s Apothecary

In-store photos by Igor Burlak

#KiehlsGetsPersonal

I’m so excited to be discussing skincare more often here on the blog. I recently had the privilege of collaborating with one of the most prestigious skincare lines in the country, Kiehl’s Apothecary, which was established in 1851. As a staple skincare company that has been able to stand the test of time, Kiehl’s knows how to modernize their old-school approach with the latest and most innovative skincare techniques and ingredients. Take their latest product launch, Kiehl’s Apothecary Preparations, for example. You can now schedule a consultation at your nearest Kiehl’s location to meet with a trained expert who will help determine your skincare needs, and create a customized serum just for you! This was a science class I could get into…Whether your goal is hydration, pore-minimization, or wrinkle-reduction, the experts at Kiehl’s can concoct a formula with your name on it—literally! They even print a special label, just for you. And don’t worry, you’ll also receive a little packet explaining what’s in your personalized product and how to use it properly

I’ve been using my custom concentrate nightly for just about two weeks now, and I’m definitely loving the results. The serum has a velvety texture that leaves my skin nice and smooth, and the pore-minimizing effects have allowed me to reduce how often I have to use a cleansing mask, or harsh tools like my Clarisonic facial brush, which can dry out my skin. Everyone’s complexion and skincare needs are different, making it totally worth the trip to seek out skin solutions made especially for you. What may seem old-fashioned is actually both logical and luxurious.

#KiehlsGivesBack

During my visit at Kiehl’s on Newbury, I also learned about their creative and charitable collaborations. Each year, Kiehl’s collaborates with artists to put together a Limited Edition Holiday Collection that will benefit those in need. This year, Kiehl’s has teamed up with artist-duo Patrick McNeil and Patrick Miller of FAILE to support Feeding America. 100% of Kiehl’s net profits from this collection benefits Feeding America, providing 1.1 million meals to food insecure people in this country. This cause means a lot to me, as I personally feel that a lot of Americans use poverty and hunger in other countries as a distraction from our own problems, while there are so many people here right in the United States who aren’t sure when or how they’ll acquire their next meal. Art has always been a powerful way to inspire philanthropy and change, and I love when the fashion and beauty lead by example on this front. The hypnotic gold-and-black artwork FAILE have conceptualized for this collection puts a fresh spin on Kiehl’s iconic packaging, and while the gold definitely embraces the holiday spirit, these products will still look awesome once the holidays have come and gone.

  1. Now let’s talk about my top three favorite Kiehl’s products *except* for my customized serum, since that’s just for me:
    1. Breakout Control Targeted Acne Spot Treatment: I tend to struggle with isolated blemishes, so I’m always looking for effective yet gentle spot treatments to erase little zits here and there. This lightweight, sulfer-infused treatment zaps zits quickly, without leaving my skin dry or red.
  2. Creme De Crops Soy Milk & Honey Whipped Body Butter: This Kiehl’s classic is decadent, and always looks lovely on one’s vanity, bathroom shelves, etc.
  3. Damage Repairing & Rehydrating Leave-In Treatment: The third and final product on this list actually strays from the skincare category. After a brief but serious stint of dye jobs, my strands have felt a little dry and need some TLC. I’ve seen great results within the past couple of weeks, and would definitely recommend this product to anyone whose hair suffers during dry winter weather.
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Culture, Essays

Call Me Crazy, But We Need to Talk About Mental Health Right Now

Like most Americans right now, I’m extremely distraught over the shooting in Orlando, Florida, where I lived from 2009-2012. I’m horrified by how bigotry and hatred played into this act of terror, and I hope we all continue to shine a light on that aspect of what’s happened, because we absolutely cannot tolerate intolerance. I could use this moment and this space to preach about equality, which should always be our first priority, but I don’t believe I have anything new to offer on a subject that should be so obvious; we’re all people, and as Lin-Manuel Miranda put it at last night’s Tony Awards, “love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love.”

Less than two weeks after a shooting at UCLA that, to my knowledge, had nothing to do with sexuality, religion, or race, I personally want to focus on some things I believe we can immediately control in order to effect necessary change. Gun safety is the big one. Everyone’s talking about it: guns are dangerously easy to acquire in the U.S., and the country needs to loosen its ridiculous grip on the second amendment, adjust its policies, and work harder to prevent putting automatic weapons into the wrong hands. I feel like the conversation always ends there, though, and we rarely talk about what we mean by the “wrong hands.” In fact, I feel like a lot of people disgracefully use that subject as a vehicle for Islamaphobia, but religion hasn’t been the common thread tying the endless string of shootings in America together…The discourse on mental illness in America remains severely hushed, and the stereotypes surrounding mental illness are as ingrained as ever, despite the fact that mental illness is extremely common. As someone who isn’t ashamed to admit that I have to take medication every day and visit a therapist regularly in order to avoid manic-depressive episodes and manage my crippling anxiety, I’m curious as to how America plans to confront the role mental illness plays in gun violence, or begin reducing gun violence, if we can’t even manage talk about mental health at length at all. We need to be brave adults and just bust open the dialogue on mental health and de-stigmatize mental-emotional issues, because right now, for many Americans, guns are easier to access than health care and appropriate treatment. Mental illness doesn’t have to be shameful, and it doesn’t have to ruin lives.

I suppose I’ve contradicted myself. I am preaching equality: I don’t think people who suffer from mental illness are treated fairly in America. Many of the people we ultimately call monsters are people we cast off for being different, people we’d rather ignore than assist. At this time, I’m not going to bombard you with a bunch of statistics or clinical facts regarding mental illness; I’m just going to tell you, plain and simple, that stigmatizing or silencing groups of people based on fear, discomfort, a lack of understanding, and general prejudice, leads to unsafe situations, and when we aren’t safe, we aren’t free.

I hope you won’t think I’m being insensitive, or in any way excusing the Orlando shooter’s heinous, homophobic actions, or his affiliation with ISIS. There is no excuse for such bigotry, violence, or terrorism. The shooter is not the victim here. However, as many Americans gear up to place blame and fight hatred with more hatred, I think we should acknowledge that extremism, religious or not, often stems from mental-emotional instability. (The shooter’s ex-wife has stated that he was mentally ill, and cites this as the true root of his actions. She laments how this will affect the Muslim community.) I’m not saying a few therapy sessions or a prescription could have prevented this nightmare. I’m saying that the list of senseless shootings aside from this one is so long, that we must examine these massacres collectively and consider how we address mental illness more carefully. I could go on a million tangents in a million different directions right now, because the way I see it, most of our country’s problems are tightly intertwined, to a dizzying degree. But the bottom line is that we need to listen to each other, we need to accept each other. We need to give each other love, or at the very least, respect. And we need to open our eyes to reality. We need to ask ourselves why America faces mass shootings more frequently than any other country in the world, and and we need to become solution-oriented, instead of just angry and hateful. (I don’t know about you, but I am pretty fucking exhausted from being angry, and I’m certain I’ve exhausted all of my Facebook friends, too.) (…Insert angry rant about people who constantly talk about the Founding Fathers and harp on concepts that are completely irrelevant today…)

I’m sad, I’m scared—but I’m hopeful; and while I understand that a lot of the seemingly (or totally) empty “thoughts and prayers” on social media frustrate those who so desperately want to actively achieve change, I also personally appreciate how social media has created a platform for people to come together, enlighten and uplift each other, and initiate real conversations about real issues. Just think about Brock Turner: a judge may not have had the sense or decency to punish Turner appropriately, but social media has allowed us to rally together to raise his victim’s voice, to see that this injustice does not get swept under the rug, and to ensure that Turner ultimately won’t be entitled to the privileges he renounced as soon as he chose to rape someone. Similarly, in the wake of our country’s most recent tragedy, we can use social media to educate each other, sound off, brainstorm, and demand better protection for Americans and HUMAN BEINGS everywhere.

For my fellow Bostonians who’d like to show their support for Orlando beyond the digital world, a vigil is being held for the victims at Boston City Hall Plaza this evening at 6pm.

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Fashion, Feminism, Pop Culture

The Statement Coat

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DSC_1121Maje ‘Ghost’ parka, American Apparel cropped sweater & mom jeans, UNIF ‘Rival’ boots, Nasty Gal beanie & choker, Stella & Dot ‘Rebel Pendant’ necklace in silver, Spitfire ‘Intergalactic’ sunglasses.

First I’d like to make a disclaimer: any and all American Apparel merchandise I wear on this blog (and in life) was purchased before I knew the extent of former CEO’s Dov Charney sexual harassment and exploitation of many of the company’s employees, and before I heard about the new management’s willingness to continue sexualizing American Apparel employees. Though I have made a firm decision not to shop at American Apparel in the future, I’ve also decided not to stop wearing American Apparel merchandise that I already own. I will no longer be including hyperlinks to the American Apparel merchandise that I wear and post on the blog; if you’d like to financially support their business, you will have to browse the site on your own. Another positive alternative to shopping at American Apparel would be to, if you see a product of theirs you like, visit ShopStyle.com and do a search for similar items by brands that set a better example.

Now that that’s out of the way, can we talk about my new Maje coat? Even after last year’s nightmarish winter, the vinyl parka with faux sheepskin lining has me excited about the increasingly cold weather. In addition to being strange and beautiful, the ‘Ghost’ coat is actually extremely warm, which is a good thing, because its ’90s vibes have me inclined to put crop tops underneath on the reg. If I had to describe this outfit, I’d say it’s a 2015-chic take on the wardrobe aesthetic of Kevin Smith classics, like Clerks. It’s the coat that completes the look and brings the outfit to life, and that’s the value of investing in a statement coat. There are times when you simply have to wear a coat, so why not wear one that makes your outfit cooler, as well as more weather-appropriate? Low temperatures and gray skies can make it hard to get out of bed and put genuine effort into crafting a creative look. Enter statement coat, which can magically (and literally) cloak a basic getup with a punch of serious style.

Photos by Miranda Mu

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Essays, Feminism, Pop Culture

I Was Not Born a Feminist

I was not born a feminist. I did not even finish high school as a feminist. In my third year of college, I signed up for a women’s studies course. I’m not exactly sure why; I think it was a matter of scheduling, and wanting to take an introductory-level course, as school has always been challenging for me. I mention this because I did not even walk into that course as a feminist. On the first day of class, the professor asked those who did identify as feminists to please raise their hands, and I didn’t raise mine. It’s not that I didn’t understand the question, it was just that…I didn’t understand the question. Three years into my higher education, I still had no idea what feminism really was. That’s why I try not to lose my shit when I run into guys who still make “jokes” about hating feminists because all feminists are angry as a means of making me angry, therefore “proving” that feminists are angry—or when I see that random Facebook users comment that Amy Schumer is only considered a feminist because she is “fat and ugly,” or that racism and feminism have nothing to do with each other. While plenty of assholes and Internet trolls exist on this earth and do make it their bizarre mission to instigate arguments and piss people off, the majority of people who seem ignorant are exactly that. They have no idea what they’re talking about, because no one has educated them on the subject, and while it makes my head spin, I can only get so mad about it, considering that I don’t know whether or not I would be writing this essay if I hadn’t taken that women’s studies course just a few years ago. I can share my opinion that middle school, high school and higher education programs should not only include, but should require gender studies classes. I can try to use this blog as a platform to help contribute to people’s understanding of feminism. I can still picture the smile on my professor’s face when she promised that each and every one of us would consider ourselves feminists before the semester was over. My view of the world, my view of myself—my life—was never the same.

While I can’t blame strangers on Facebook or at school or in the streets for gaps in their education, I can and will call out magazines, social media outlets, and other channels of pop culture, which claim to preach feminism when convenient, for hiring people who clearly don’t have a grasp on the subject, and for letting those people write misguided articles that perpetuate stereotypes, stigmas, ignorance, and general negativity, and for perhaps even capitalizing on the fact that feminism is a popular topic, intentionally confusing the issue to increase engagement on social media. In spite of free speech, I believe that high-profile publications, both in print and online, have an obligation to try to serve as part of the solution, and lately, as many of my readers who follow along with my Facebook page already know, most of the publications I enjoy and follow online—some of the most prominent publications in the world of fashion and that cater to women—have recently and persistently published a slew of antiquated, inflammatory articles and essays that directly contribute to social problems, and swiftly hinder progress.

It’s not as if I grew up without any strong female figures in my life, or that I was taught to avoid feminism. I think growing up, aside from the fact that no one had formally explained feminism to me, I assumed I didn’t have permission to claim the title because of my interest in fashion, which is something people have used to denigrate me for as long as I can remember. When I first started high school, almost ten years ago, I felt that it was largely considered not just uncool, but also apparently indisputably shallow to care about your clothes. I wore what I wanted regardless, and received my fair share of compliments, but someone went out of their way to make me feel stupid, guilty, immoral, and just all-around bad for loving clothes basically every day. Looking back, I realize that what my peers punished me for was not really my interest in fashion, but my desire to be different, and their inability to move past the social stereotypes that no adults were correcting. While the word “superficial” was always closely attached to the conversation, everyone seemed to ultimately take issue with the fact that I didn’t show up to school in the unspoken female uniform of the era: jeans, a Northface fleece jacket, and Ugg boots, all of which typically cost about $200 individually. People liked to use my passions as reason to point a finger at me, call me spoiled, and assert their incredible down-to-earthness, but the only real difference between most of the accusers and myself was that my outfits stood out aesthetically. The irony that I let people use my appearances to call me superficial continues to astound me. I guess if your wardrobe has variety, it’s fair to assume that you spend more money on your clothes, but that’s not the point. If you are reading this and are already aware of intersectional feminism, as well as general common sense and goodness, you know that passing judgment on and shaming people based solely on their socioeconomic background and/or the clothes on their back is inappropriate and unproductive. (I’m aware, by the way, that kids get bullied for much worse in high school. I’m aware that these complaints do come from a place of privilege, but pain is not a contest; no one deserves to be judged on a surface-based level.) What I’ve learned since my teen years, among so many things, is that “feminism” means I get to care about whatever the fuck I want, and express myself however the fuck I want. I didn’t play soccer. I didn’t need cleats. I didn’t play an instrument. I didn’t need lessons. My first love in life was to express myself through personal style, and clothes are my outlet for doing so, and that is valid, and it is no one’s place to tell me otherwise. I have learned that anyone who thinks that this has any effect on my intellect probably isn’t very smart. In college, in the same year that I took women’s studies, I participated in a literary internship that gave me the opportunity to spend some time with author and now-famous feminist, Chimamamanda Ngozie Adichie, who told me that shoes “are her favorite subject” before anything else. She didn’t know it, but in that moment, she freed me from a lifetime of shame. These days, when I encounter people who would like to belittle my passions and what I do, I sometimes get annoyed, but mostly I pity those who live so far in the past and who feel the need to put others down for living lives that don’t exactly mirror their own.

When one of NYLON Magazine’s online writers smugly captioned an article listing facts about Kendall and Kylie Jenner’s high school graduation with “1. They graduated?” on Facebook, it struck a nerve. I had heard that tone before. I had been the target of it too many times, and I couldn’t just sit there and pretend it was ok, especially after NYLON had just shared an excellent essay by a young woman who proudly identifies as fat, and explains that crop tops helped her accept herself. Feminism has no room for favoritism. If you think it’s ironic to defend the Jenner girls in the name of feminism, well we have arrived at my point: don’t bother taking into account that neither Kendall nor Kylie Jenner is even 20 years old and both have full-blown careers and make millions of dollars; the fact that these young women represent what you may consider superficial values does not negate their accomplishment of earning high school diplomas. There is no tasteful reaction to someone’s academic success other than applause, or silence (if you can’t something nice, don’t say anything at all), no matter who that person may be. As someone who always appreciates a good joke, I can confidently say that while it may be a fine line, there is a definite difference between comedy and downright girl-bashing. NYLON’s two words, punctuated by a sarcastic question mark, implied that because the Jenner girls are associated with pop culture, and more specifically, with fashion and beauty, they automatically don’t have what it takes to complete their high school requirements—that pursuing a career in modeling or getting lip injections directly connects to one’s performance in home-schooling. So, I went ahead and took the liberty of tearing NYLON a new, freshly waxed asshole. When my initial comment on the article started to pick up “likes” and replies echoing my frustrations, NYLON wrote back to me with a disappointing excuse, telling me by name that they were being “totally, totally facetious,” and of course not at all condescending or hypocritical, considering almost all of the writers at NYLON presumably earned their professional positions based on both their academic backgrounds, as well as interests that much of society deems low, unimportant, or superficial—interests they share with Kendall and Kylie Jenner. NYLON’s petty reaction reminded me so much of confronting kids for talking behind my back in high school, or for rolling their eyes at the mere sight of me. The magazine’s lame attempt to deny their flagrant insensitivity was absolute bullshit, and it only bothered me and my sudden band supporters even more. Something lit up inside of me when I saw the response I was receiving from strangers, and it’s still growing brighter and stronger every day.

As a feminist and fashion-lover who’s also extremely passionate about writing, and whose life essentially takes place on social media (I’m not embarrassed. You’re reading this.), I can’t stop noticing the troublesome language that myriad publications for women, and which supposedly stand for feminism, use and put out into the world with such ease, as if even they don’t believe that social media matters. What the fuck is a “yummy-mommy?” Well, it’s Vogue’s not-so-adorable term (that doesn’t even rhyme) that perpetuates the notion that pregnancy and motherhood inherently make women unstylish and unappealing. What’s wrong with Rihanna’s latest ad campaign? Absolutely nothing; Rihanna doesn’t have to dress a certain way to prove that she’s black, or that she cares about being black. What is wrong is tossing around a term like “whitewashed” as if it carries no history or weight, and insinuating that anyone who strays from the confines of the stereotypes attached to their race, ethnicity, or culture are automatically abandoning those things and setting a bad example. (For the record, I think Rihanna often does set a bad example for young women in many ways, but I also think she is perhaps one of the most eclectic style icons of our generation, and shows us that having a signature sense of style doesn’t necessarily mean you always adhere to one niche in the world of fashion.) Why is this Harper’s Bazaar list of tips for looking “skinnier” on Instagram problematic? I don’t want to patronize anyone, myself, but I also honestly wish I didn’t have to address such nonsense: body image is a major, and often life-threatening matter to which social media unfortunately sometimes contributes on its own by posing unavoidable comparisons. People need to learn to love themselves, and that’s all the more difficult when they log on to Facebook and see a headline that suggests they should learn to hide instead. Why is this Who What Wear article about which lingerie men prefer also problematic? Well, for starters, because feminism is not just about women. It’s about everyone. It’s for everyone. Gender-equality is an all-inclusive concept, and while we’re making strides here and there, it still seems quite out of reach. (Please watch Emma Watson’s inspiring 2014 United Nations speech about gender equality and her #HeForShe campaign.) As I recently wrote on Facebook (and I’m rewording a little bit here), what so many people fail to understand about the endless stream of articles, books, TV shows, and movies that insist that everything women do and say and wear should be in the interest of pleasing men not only prompts women to remain submissive, but also pressures men into believing they have to act as aggressors, and constantly exert control over women and their bodies in order to be perceived and accepted as “masculine.” Like a lot of people, I used to think women were the only true victims of sexism, but men aren’t as liberated as we typically assume. In that women’s studies course, we watched a documentary (unfortunately, I cannot remember the title) about the vicious cycle of society’s perceived gender roles, and how society continuously imprisons men with its rigid standards of masculinity. I sat there shocked as it showed the evolution of the G.I. Joe action figure. (Why can’t I call it a doll? Why aren’t they all just toys?) Society has spent decades in an ethical debate over Barbie and her unrealistic measurements, which have always been the same, but few people realize that the original G.I. Joe looked like an “average-sized” man with totally attainable muscle mass, and has slowly evolved to resemble someone whose body-type could only be obtained by spending countless hours lifting weights, and/or with the assistance of steroids. Society clings to this “boys will be boys” perspective on male violence, when so much of that violence is the result of social constructs we’ve created ourselves, and to which there are solutions. In some ways, we have achieved equality, in that everyone in this world is at some point asked to step inside an easily identifiable box of social norms, and stay there. Most of the time, it doesn’t fit, but so many people don’t admit to their discomfort, and instead choose to conform for fear of being outcast. Why isn’t it ok to question whether or not Caitlyn Jenner’s docuseries I Am Cait lives up to the “hype”? Well, because she isn’t telling her story for the sake of ratings. (Seriously, stop saying that.) Caitlyn Jenner isn’t just the former-Olympian father figure on Keeping Up With the Kardashians anymore. She’s officially one of the foremost transgender icons and role models in the world, and in human history. To those stubborn Facebook users out there: why can’t you compare transgender teen, Jazz Jennings, of I Am Jazz, to Caitlyn Jenner? Well, for starters, because they’re two different people, but also because the transgender community is in desperate need of role models and social representation, and to limit that group to one spokesperson is to marginalize their existence, and also ignores the many other, diverse transgender individuals who’ve already come out and stood up as activists. (It’s bemusing how, when people take to social media to bash the reality television industry and claim it has no merit at all whatsoever, they often inadvertently reveal that they are not actually capable of seeing of what’s not immediately visible to them on reality TV shows.) The suicide rate within the transgender population is reason enough to avoid pitting transgender celebrities against each other, and not for nothing, but how can anyone’s scope be so narrow that they fail to see how incredibly lucky we are to have a 15-year-old transgender woman and a 65-year-old transgender woman in the spotlight simultaneously? The entire angle of Jenner’s interview with Diane Sawyer made it clear that most of the world feels unfamiliar with the transgender experience, and we need to educate ourselves. Would you assume you could learn everything about what it’s like to be African-American from one black person alone, or that one Jewish person’s take on Judaism could sum it all up? No, because that would be absurd. (Also, not many people seem to actively wonder why we need to know what “real housewives” are arguing about in multiple cities, but I’ve read literally dozens of comments on Facebook from people who think they have to choose one transgender celebrity to support.) We learn some overlapping, but ultimately completely different and equally valuable things from Jennings and Jenner and their friends and families, all of whom have put themselves out there to promote acceptance and safety, to let people in the LGBTQ community know that they are not alone—to save lives. In addition, if I’ve learned anything from the three installments of I Am Cait that have aired so far, it’s that Jenner’s vantage point of privilege does not even begin to scrape the surface of the struggles so many transgender people face, and society needs to witness a wider spectrum of those experiences in order to increase understanding and improve those precious lives. (Jenny Boylan, Laverne Cox, and many others have been reminding us of this fact for a long time, from platforms less glamorous than the cover of Vanity Fair.) And for those of you who think it’s blasphemous to associate the word “feminism” with anyone who’s been on Kardashians other than Caitlyn, read this Rolling Stone interview with Kim and then get back to me. It definitely got me thinking: no other women talk so unashamedly about their vaginas on television as the Kardashian sisters do. None. Why am I harping on the Kardashian clan so much right now? Because I want you to understand that feminism is broad, forgiving, and can never be gauged on image alone. Because I like to spend my money on clothes, facials, and decorative manicures, and I read the product reviews on Sephora.com more frequently than I read any major newspaper, and I sing to my own reflection for hours on end—and sometimes I hate what I see—and none of that makes me dumb, or a bad feminist, or a bad person. None of that even comes close to defining my whole complex existence.

The difficulty of writing this essay is that I could go on forever. Because feminism is intersectional and so very multi-faceted, it bleeds into every virtually every aspect of human life. I won’t stop here. I’ll definitely write more essays that discuss (or yell about) feminism going forward; but I guess I’d like to close this one by saying that there is hope. Anger isn’t the only emotion I experience as a feminist. Progress has been and continues to be made every day, and I see it every day. (I’m proud to report that NYLON actually revised some of the Facebook headlines about which I complained to have a more positive, politically correct tone, and even published an interesting article admitting to their conflicting and often imprudent messages, stating, “…we don’t always have a united front when we should, but we are always figuring it out. And sometimes, our readers rightfully call us out on this fact.” (However, this article unfortunately attempts to pawn their racism and other offenses off on other companies, such as Instagram, and does not confront some of the mistakes they’ve made that most urgently need to be addressed and redacted.)) The problem with how many mixed messages I see on my Facebook Newsfeed, many of which come from the same sources, is that it makes it so difficult for people to navigate their role in society and know how to conduct themselves in social situations. When I’m confronted by someone who still thinks “I hate feminists” is a legitimate punchline (good one…), or anyone who casually/”jokingly” says anything that I find downright anti-feminist, racist, etc., I have to wonder if it’s because that person has just received too many mixed messages through social media, and simply can’t decipher the positive from the negative. Perhaps that person was essentially told, in a matter of sixty seconds, that Amy Schumer is a comedic hero for all audiences, that it’s ok to physically abuse women if you’re a professional athlete, that there is finally a woman coaching in the NFL, that Rihanna’s latest ad campaign is a disgrace to black women everywhere, that Rihanna should be able to reveal her nipples on absolutely any platform, that women should choose their clothing based on what men like, that women should feel proud of whatever size they wear, and that Caitlyn Jenner’s most recent accomplishment was wearing a formfitting dress. I can’t imagine being inundated with that contradictory, and frequently politically incorrect content without that lone, introductory course under my belt. I’m not an actual expert on feminism, but I am proof that it doesn’t take long to become comfortable with the concept if you have the resources, open your mind, and really listen.

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Essays, Feminism, Pop Culture

Lena Dunham: Why Are You Still Talking About Her Body?

Fashion Food for Thought…

Today is Lena Dunham’s 28th birthday. I’d like you to take that in—consider all she has accomplished by this young age, and how much you yourself achieved, or hope to achieve, by 28. In honor of her birthday, one of my favorite fashion magazines posted a picture on Facebook of Lena in a lovely dress, with a link to a compilation of that magazine’s favorite witty and wise quotes from Ms. Dunham. This made me happy…until I saw the first four comments. One man wrote, in all capital letters, “FAT SLOB.” I browsed this guy’s profile pictures. He is well overweight. Another man wrote, “What a mess!” Yes: a young woman with a wildly successful and dynamic career, incalculable accolades for said career, and a positive self-image…such a mess! Another young woman commented, “She is fate.” Since that doesn’t make sense, I presume this person was attempting to write, “She is fat.” Actually, Lena Dunham is a talented writer, and one should probably grasp the spelling of first-grade level, three-letter words before deciding to scathe her. The only remotely positive comment I saw on this post read, “LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT!” Assuming the woman who wrote this is not Lena Dunham’s mother and doesn’t know Lena Dunham personally at all, what does that even mean? Dunham has never been accused of any kind of lewd or criminal behavior that we often see and associate with young starlets, and her evidently loving, healthy relationship with her musician boyfriend has never, to my knowledge, been scandalous enough for the tabloids. So—and maybe I’m the one with the problem here—I can’t help but figure that this Facebook user’s “loving” remark was her way of saying, “I enjoy your work even though you are not conventionally attractive.”

Ok, where do I begin? Everyone wants to know why Lena Dunham chooses to expose her body so frequently on GIRLS, but fewer people seem to wonder why Sports Illustrated needs an annual swimsuit edition (although I must send good vibes to those who called out the magazine for that totally bizarre Barbie thing), or why the annual Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show is such a hyped-up televised event. Here’s the thing, and I know this may shock some people…but skinny folks aren’t the only ones having sex. In fact, skinny people aren’t the only ones who receive sexual attention and affection. HBO’s GIRLS, whether you like the show or not, attempts to depict the real-life experiences of twenty-somethings (who come in all shapes and sizes), and sex is a big part of that. Sex generally plays a large role in most of stages of life, but as a twenty-something myself, I think I can attest to the fact that sex and dating cause especially extreme confusion during this chapter—and I can’t speak for everyone, but I’m pretty sure most people don’t wear clothes during intercourse. With the freedom HBO gives its shows, why should Dunham have to reduce the verisimilitude of the highly relatable sexual content in GIRLS just because she doesn’t look like those girls in Sports Illustrated? (Isn’t that kind of the point of the show itself?—that is focuses on regular girls?) Something tells me Dunham is more satisfied with titles such as writer, director, actress, and Golden Globe-winner than she would be with Victoria’s Secret Angel, and society needs to allow her to take pride in those roles she does fulfill. After all, it’s not like she sought out to be a style icon. If anything, viewers should feel vexed by how other TV shows that claim to convey the human sexual experience, such as Showtime’s Masters of Sex, seem to exclusively cast actors who do meet society’s unrealistic standards of physical beauty. I also can’t help but speculate that, if Dunham did fit into our culture’s warped conventions, people wouldn’t be so disgusted by her nudity, and the vast majority would harp on how miraculous it was that a “beautiful” woman could also be so intelligent and successful.

Please do not think I am shaming models or any female public figures who do fit the typical description of “beauty”; as a fashion enthusiast and blogger, I am aware of the genuine hard work that goes into modeling careers (plus, for every five remotely attractive pictures you see of me on this blog, there are about a hundred blackmail-worthy shots, too), and as a lover of “high fashion” in particular, I know and appreciate that the models in fashion magazines and on high-profile runways usually have unconventional features, themselves. In the interest of full disclosure, I should probably also admit that I am entirely guilty of worshipping various models, actresses, singers, etc. based on their physical features and outfits alone. Still, it bothers me that someone like supermodel Miranda Kerr receives little to no criticism for building a career based on her body, and is constantly praised for things like birthing a child, practicing yoga, and sleeping with magic “healing” crystals on her nightstand, while Dunham’s accomplishments are so frequently overshadowed by the scrutiny of her physique. However, as I’ve mentioned before, this issue does come full-circle: while society urges Dunham to put more effort into her looks, many of us who do take fashion seriously are automatically stamped as shallow and unintellectual. Although writing a fashion blog may seem to highlight the importance of appearances, my goal as a fashion blogger is actually to highlight the importance of self-expression, and in that regard, Lena Dunham is more of a role model to me than many of the people who are directly connected to the fashion industry. As a devoted fan of GIRLS, I can honestly say that Dunham’s body never phases me, because her body is essentially beside the point. Of course some of those scenes make me uncomfortable at times—ambiguous relationships and sexual encounters in the midst of quarter-life crises are fucking uncomfortable—but I watch each episode feeling relieved and empowered, because Dunham so accurately portrays and represents the excitement and the awkwardness that come with romantic and sexual discovery. Regardless of my dress size, when I watch Lena Dunham on GIRLS—that “fat slob,” as some call her—I see myself. And so, I just have one question: why are you still talking about her body?10312416_10152260589807562_3503956057375354444_n

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